Marguerite Joan Shay Scheffey

Marguerite Joan Shay Scheffey

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Margot died peacefully after a long battle with Alzheimer’s on February 9, 2023, at The View of Alexandria Nursing home in Alexandria, VA. She is survived by her daughters Jennifer Shay of Coos Bay OR and Melinda Cheselka (Steven) of Apopka FL, stepsons Carl Scheffey (Susan) and John Scheffey (Betsy). She will be missed by many other relatives across the US, England and Australia, including her nieces, nephews and God children, as well as her longtime caregiver Ama Serwah. She was preceded in death by her 1st husband Jerome W Shay who died in 1990 and her 2nd husband Charles Scheffey who died in 2014.

Margot was born in India on September 14, 1925, when she was 4 her family moved back to England and to her beloved family home ‘Persfield’ in Ewell. During WW2 she met her first husband Jerome and moved to the United States. Margot worked in the banking industry as an Executive Administrative Assistant for First American Bank. She loved singing in the church choir and was an active member of St. Michael’s Episcopal Church participating on various committees. Margot loved crafting particularly for the church bazaar and had a passion for her dogs Emma and Lula. It was due to this love of dogs that she met her 2nd husband Chuck and his dog Harriett.

A memorial service will be held on February 27, 2023 at 2:00 p.m. at St. Michael’s Episcopal Church, 1132 North Ivanhoe St, Arlington, VA 22205. Interment will immediately follow the service, on the Church grounds. In lieu of flowers, memorial gifts may be given to the Alzheimer’s Association ( or St. Michael’s Episcopal Church

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  1. Jenny Lindamood Tigney says:

    I grew up in the home next to Margot and Jerry (and Emma!). Growing up I loved going over to her house and exploring. She used to have our house key on a purple string and let me in to my house more times than I count when I forgot my key. It was always a running joke between us. I will always cherish the memories!

  2. Judy Hughes says:

    Margot welcomed us with open arms when we moved in next door with our 1 yr old eldest daughter in 1988. Through the years, she was always there, a steady presence, loving neighbor, additional grand mother as we welcomed 2 more daughters. I loved talking about the war years with her. Thoughtful, reflective and, if asked, provided wise and gentle counsel. RIP Margot.
    Judy and family

  3. Evans family says:

    Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.
    May the God of all comfort help to ease the pain of your grief. Thinking of you all.

  4. Ginny Albert says:

    Margot was such a sweet lady. She lived across the street from us for many years. We loved seeing her out with Emma.

    May her memory be eternal.

    Ginny Albert

  5. The Rt. Rev. David I. Moshier says:

    How well I remember Margot with great affection. We worked together at Clarendon Bank and Trust in the Seventies and our paths crossed again at St. Michael’s when I was invited by the rector to participate in a Christmas midnight service in the Eighties.
    Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her. May her +soul, and the +++souls of all faithful departed, through the mercies of God, rest in peace. Amen.

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